For some people it takes them a life time to figure out who their real friends are, and some never figure it out.

I am always humbled by the people in my life, partly because they all think they are right, about everything but really because of their love.

Let me define what I believe a friend is.

Friends are the families we chose for ourselves, and they can sometimes be closer than actual family.

knowing who your true friends are, is a big blessing, they are the people you can talk to about any and everything with out having to say dont tell anyone, because they know better.

In high school I thought I knew who my real friends where as I had over 50 lol,

lesson: two good friends are far better than a 100 bad ones or rather associates

Qualities of a real friend… they are there when you need them, honest no matter what it maybe, a real friend will not say negative things behind your back, a real friend doesn’t take advantage of you nor kicks you when you are down.

a few of my real Friends, in no particular order :p

Sam J….. I have known Sam since I was 14 years old, he was my best friend once upon a time, I would like to think his wife is now his Best Friend. Sam and I have been friends for twelve years. At a point in my life he was the only person I could trust with my secrets (other than God of course) we were so close everyone used to say the movie “Love and Basketball” was about us but we laughed cause we knew better, but over the years we have grown, gone through life’s turmoils some broke and others built our friendship. I would like to say the relationships we have with our significant others, is partly strengthened because of our friendship. I love you Sam

Tag WARS 2009

Ify E…. I met her  in an interesting way, (now this is a confusing story so pay attention) she had just moved to California in 2004, and she had been hearing from her cousin who is a friend to a family member of mine who shall remain nameless lol. Okay now she kept hearing all these negative things from her cousin… about this Cindy character. One sunny late 2004 she entered a laundry mart with her cousin and friends to do laundry to be introduced to Cindy(me) she was told I do hair, so I started to do her hair, and each time we talked and she told me she was disappointed when she met me, because I was nothing like what she expected given all she heard, instead I looked, dressed and acted like a church girl (lol),as time went by Ify and I got much closer, we started going out together, and hanging out and till today we are the very best of friends. She is someone that I trust completely and can say I always know that she is being real, she is not messy nor fake. I love that skinny gyal lol

Ify and I

Ms ABI, as we call her, I met this lovely lady back in 2004 through Ify E…. who introduced her to me as a hair client and in 2005 we got closer, Ms Ab is a sweet lady, very smart and does not take ISH (lol) she is a woman that knows what she wants out of life, and she goes for it, and this is a quality I have always admired in her, I love this chick.

ABI and I

I will stop there.

OKAY! My sister is the closest person to me in this world, I have known her for 26years, she is beautiful inside and out, she encourages me to be the best me I can be, I talk to her about every thing, she brings joy to my life, she is the first person I call when I am having a bad day and the first I call when I am having a good day. I cry when she is hurting, I dislike anyone who does anything to upset her, I am very protective of her, I pray for her everyday even when I forget to pray for myself…..Oh I can go on forever, I’m already in tears. I thank God for her, she is the gift that keeps on giving, she is the Friend I did not have to chose, because God picked her perfectly and made her my big sister, I love this girl more than Webster can attempt to define LOVE.

our silliness

US playing around in moms clothes years eve

My sister


Right from time I have always dreamt big and lived in my very fasinating imagination while still having to deal with Life’s very realistic situations, and trust me my life is no fairy-tale or maybe it is, maybe its in that long drawn out part where you hope your favorite character gets favored in the end. Then again my parents did allow the name Cinderella to slip onto my birth certificate which later became Cindy thank God! Then again Precious is on there too, I guess I am just one fairy-tale after another, Maybe My prince charming might actually be a frog(gross)…

My life as a fairy-tale oh NO Just My life.

Today I listened to a presentation online by a man named Ron Gutman. Titled the hidden power of Smiling. Though I found this presentation to be amusing, I also must say he had some valid points, he talked about how smiling was proven to make one live longer, and I thought to myself well looks like I might die tomorrow because my mouth is shaped in a way that if I am not showing teeth I look like I am angry 😦  the more I listened the more I appreciated his presentation, because he went further saying that when you smile you appear to be more courteous and likable…

I will attach a link of his short speech so if anyone wants to read it they are welcome to it, remember to smile it might add a couple years to your life 🙂 and always dream big.